So much of our medical and nursing training teaches us that we are responsible, that we somehow hold the power of life and death in our hands.  This is only partly true. Ultimately we cannot control the major moments of transition in our lives.

And so you find that one of your patients has died. It is all part of life, and all of it is bigger and more mysterious than we can ever imagine.

Just spend a moment taking some deep breaths and breathing into your heart. Be with yourself, be with whatever arises within. As you look down at this person who has just died their presence may still be felt in the room.

Acknowledge this passing. A soul has just made it’s transition, and you have been the midwife through the process.

Their family might be waiting outside. You know you can help them come to terms with this loss in their life.  To do so you must be willing to feel the losses in your own life. The more space you’ve made in your heart for your own losses, the more space you’ll have in your heart for theirs.

Take a moment and see if this death has brought up anything for you.  Soften around it. Breathe into it. Feel whatever you need to feel.

And when you’re ready, with your heart full of love and compassion, and all the reasons that you went into healing in the first place, go and tell them the news. Your ability to do this while staying in your own heart will help them immeasurably to do the same.

Remember what brought you here in the first place.  You make a difference.  What you do and think and feel matters more than you’ll ever know.

We’ve been taught that there is no time.

We’ve been taught that there is no time for our own grief, for our own pain.

We’re taught to rush to the next bedside.

But what happens to all of this stored up grief, all of this stored up pain of the tears that have not been shed?

It doesn’t go away. It stays with us.

Allow yourself this moment of being present with what is.

Take yourself into your own heart.

You get to choose how much you allow yourself to feel.

Give yourself this moment. (musical reflection)

You’ve touched into your heart. You know that there’s more in there.  For now, it’s enough.

Feeling makes you a much more effective healer. It does not detract from your ability, it adds to your effectiveness.

Imagine that you’re now surrounded by light,and by the courage to move back into your day, with full access to all of who you are, everything intact.

Know that you can tap into the wisdom of your heart at any moment. It’s always there waiting for you. It’s the key to making you a better and more powerful healer.


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